(For anyone: Single, Married, Separated, Divorced)
Seminar Content Listed by Week
Course Content (A description of each of the five weeks in the workshop)
Week One
The Autopsy (of a failed marriage)
• Were you ready to get married in the first place
• The reasons why people get married
• The reasons why people separate
• Why people change
• External reasons people separate
The attitudes and behaviours that we can control
• Our External Control Logic (The destructive Attitudes learned from birth)
• Our Basic Needs (Driving force behind all human behaviours)
• Internal Motivation (How we make Choices)
• A better communication process (The biggest impact on marriages)
Reflections on Your Past Marriage
• Were the needs of both you and your partner being met in the marriage
• How do your current attitudes compare to the ones that don’t work
• Now that you understand why marriages can fail, are you ready to learn so new skills
Week Two
Our Perceptions can Make or Break any Relationship (Especially Marriages)
• How our assumptions get us into trouble
• People just give us information (You give it meaning and how you feel about it)
• Choosing your perspective (Do you want to be Right or Happy)
Divorce is the Death of a Marriage (With it comes many Losses)
• “Pain” physical or emotional indicates that something needs to be “healed
• Divorce is a significant LOSS (Grieving is required, how is your choice)
• Toxic Nostalgia (Seemingly randomly reoccurring negative thoughts) can be reduced
• Mourning: The formal process of expressing grief
• The Defense Mechanisms we use
• Dealing with Regrets, Resentments and Bitterness
• On the day you are better (You will . . .)
FEAR (False Expectations Appearing Real)
• The common fears that plague us
• How to deal with our Fears
How to move on with your life
• 400 places to meet new people
Week Three
Anger
• Anger (The Demand For Change)
• Questions To Ask While Counting To 10
• Do’s and Don’ts While You Feel Angry
• Ways to Express Anger
• An AA Poem
Regaining Composure
• A Dis-arming skill when another person’s emotional outburst is aimed directly at you
• Validate Their Feelings First before trying to resolve anything
• Regaining Composure Group Exercises
The Three Ways We Relate To People
• As a Friend (This is when the two of you are just chatting)
• As a Counselor or Coach (This is when a friend asks you for an opinion)
• As a Manager (This is when you want help or you want someone to do something for you)
Week Four
Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence and Self-Worth
• Self-Evaluation (Honestly assessing how you live your life)
• Your Principles Standards, Values and Beliefs
• How you criticize yourself
• Things you like about yourself
• How other people see you
• Steps to improving Self-Image
Being a well-adjusted person
Characteristics of a destructive relationships
Characteristics that Nurture relationships
Putting Excitement Back Into A Relationship
Week Five
Communications
• Effective Communications
• Speaking Behaviours
• Listening Behaviours
• Non-Verbal Communications
• Words To Avoid
• Keys to Successful Problem Solving
• Secrets Of Conversation Control
• Relating To Others
Dating
• On Making a Date
• What If It’s “NO” !
• Fourteen Exercises That Are Bad For Your Health
Sexuality
• Sex In The 2020’s
• Facts About AIDS
• Contraceptives
• Sexually Transmitted Diseases
• Common Questions
Rap Up
• Guide To Better Loving
• Mature Love vs Immature Love
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
• How Do You Want To Proceed
• My Self-Empowerment Triplets !
• Some Thoughts for Your Refrigerator Door
Please let me know if you are interested.
There is no obligation or commitment.
