Divorce is the death of a marriage.
This is the last step to becoming single again.
You may still have obligation such as financial or children, but as far as the law is concerned, you are no longer part of a couple.
The Marriage is over.
But, you may become aware that the emotions are not over.
(Anger, guilt, fear, frustration, loss, rejection, depression, hate, anxiety)
You may want to ask yourself some of these questions:
Do you know what went wrong?
What was your part in that failure?
How has your self-image and self-esteem been affected?
Do you know what a good marriage should be like?
What did you learn from being married?
What did you learn from the divorce?
Can you safely live and not make the same mistakes again?
Of course you will survive. But before you go into another relationship, you may want to:
Learn how to more effectively deal with emotions (positive or negative).
Learn how relationships work.
Learn how attitudes and behaviours impact relationships.
Decide how you want your next relationship to be.
Improve your communication skills.
Learn how to avoid making the same mistakes again.
You “will” go into another relationship sooner or later.
You may want to be a little better prepared for it.
(Do some research, talk to some people who have been there and done that, and maybe listen to an expert or two.)
The best “next step” is to join a support group of like minded people.
(People who have experienced similar losses)
The “Rebuilding Seminar” is such a group
You can learn from each other.